Sunday, 30 September 2012

The Life Sized Doll, The Punching Bag: Day 2


Over today, my relaxing Saturday where Olivier had decided that I would need sleep, I have been kicked, spat on, had my hair pulled and been pummeled to within an inch of my sanity.

The children are lovely.

But, completely mental. Salomé is 8 and speaks slower and more carefully because she understands that I know nothing. Chloé is 5 and played a card game with me for one hour where the only thing I knew about the game was that she was cheating. And Gabriel is 3 and adorable. Olivier says the girls used to be shy. They aren’t anymore. Salomé was out of the house a lot of today, she went to Sunday school and to a birthday party, but when she was here, she was talking to me. I feel more and less confident in my French because of them. Often, they talk and I have no idea what comes out of their mouths- but I can understand enough and make myself understood enough. Salomé likes to say HELLO then ALLO very very loudly, again and again. She thinks it’s funny that they are really similar. The fact that so much is similar is saving me.

They did my hair for an hour and spent the rest of the time all trying to sit on my lap.

I forgot the word for bread, the word for trees and the word for smile.

I looked in my dictionary today specifically for: kick (to put it in the negative), tickle and necklace.

“Je sais pas”/”Desolée, repeatez?”/”Je ne suis pas comprenne”- my most used phrases.

Olivier was singing A Hard Rain’s Gonna Fall while doing the dishes last night. It’s funny what gets you. He started, and all I wanted to do was imitate dad when he does that. Olivier just likes the song, but dad does it when he’s being sarcastic about how hard life is. Also, Olivier can sing well. But it makes me miss home a bit, you know.

Bugs, Drugs and Plane Rides: DAy 1


And we’re off!

Got stung in three places by a wasp during my Melbourne stopover.  Resulting in me taking some drugs. Although, as I sit writing this as we fly from Doha to Paris, I’m struck by the realisation that if I handled the situation (even if that meant calling my mum*). I didn’t fall asleep in the airport and miss my flight because of the anti-histamines and the pain during both flights hasn’t been unbearable. Plane food was nice- glad I brought extra fruit though J

It hadn’t quite hit that I was overseas until I realised the shuttle around Doha airport was driving on the wrong side of the road. I let that moment get me a little excited. Hearing a myriad of languages on the plane is nice too. Watched a lot of movies, read my book and chatted to a French guy, Damien, for a while during the flight. Getting into the country was pretty easy, although I got the sense that being Australian helps a deal. They checked my passport for less than five seconds, but the two Chinese girls in front of me had theirs absolutely scrutinised, checked with magnifiers etc. Finding the train station and checking my tickets were in order, getting money out, sitting down and then realising there was nothing left to do for two hours.

Damien showed up again, his train to Strasbourg wasn’t until after mine, so we talked a while (in English, I’m ashamed to admit). He had been living in Uganda for two months as part of his uni degree in telecommunication engineering. We talked about that, about uni in general, about France and travelling. Then the train and trying so so hard not to fall asleep. I kept drifting off and starting myself awake- as well as being paranoid that someone would take my bag (but it really doesn’t seem like that kind of train, also, no one EVER could lift that thing sneakily).   The heavy bag was a disaster, lugging it up and down stairs in the connecting train station must have been incredibly comical to watch…

But- I won’t have to lift it at that weight again! Met Olivier at the train station, had promptly arrived and realised I had no idea what he looked like and that he probably wouldn’t be able to pick me out (being blonde in the visa photos he would have seen). Fashioned a make-shift sign, and he appeared from the crowd. Genius. À faire la bisous- kissing on the cheek- big here, have done it a few times now.

Tried to get in the wrong side of the car.

Olivier lives 25 minutes from Tours. Driving through, I can see that it is a beautiful city; everything seems out of a postcard and of course, undeniably French. I got those amazing taxi flutters- the ones where you just want to press your nose up against the glass and look at everything. The drive was good, Olivier has fluent English and is also funny and kind (bonus).  We talked about my schedule- still undecided, as he wanted to talk to me about it, but probably with a three day weekend. We talked about work, home and uni and his wife Estelle and his three children.

The house. Oh, the house. He told me on the way that it was a restored farmhouse that used to belong to Jean, Estelle’s father. But it is the house I dream about. It is all sandstone and wood, with beautiful décor and a big fireplace. It overlooks the field where Estelle keeps her horse and is surrounded by fields and trees. I am in love. Along with being beautiful, it is also homey and I feel relaxed immediately.  I met Estelle, who speaks no English** (she and I skirt each other, terrified and silent). The children were already in bed, but on my way to the shower, this happened:
Tiny voices: “Allo?”
Me: “Oh, um, allo.”
Tiny voices: (to each other) “Ouais, c’est elle!” “Oh” (lots of laughter and whispers) “Allo! Allo!”
Me: also laughing “Allo!”
Oliver: coming up the stairs (something along the lines of: you naughty naughty children, go to sleep. No, you cannot meet her now, you are asleep. You should be asleep anyway. Yes, you can meet her tomorrow. Yes, Salomé, she is sleeping in your room. Go to sleep.”

Ate, slept.


*Big shout out to mum and Anna for their advice. When one is taking anti-histamines, sipping water regularly should stave off most of the drowsiness. Although, I think the adrenaline rush of leaving the country may have helped.

**I have since learnt that she understands a lot more than she lets on. She translates to the children what I have said to Olivier. 

Tuesday, 25 September 2012

To the Wise Wonderful Women

As an opening disclaimer, I adore the boys and men in my life, but this past week, saying good bye to the women I have surrounded myself with was hard. So very hard.

These are women I have known my whole life, some of my life, only met recently. It doesn't actually matter. I know women across ages, across beliefs, across personalities. They are all a part of my life, and hence, a part of me. Saying goodbye to someone I work with, someone I drink with, someone I watch films with, someone I grew up with. Does saying I watch films with so and so and I go walking with so and so diminish what happens during that time? Haven't I grown up with all these women, learning different things about myself and growing into the person I am today? These women, I trust. I go to them with my life and ask them to unroll it's mysteries. They have halved the sadness and doubled the happiness. They have helped me get atrociously drunk and dance all night in Mobius.

I have friends who love camping and friends who love music and friends who love politics and friends who love travelling. These women know what it is to be strong, even if they don't believe it themselves, even when their bodies are telling them otherwise, even when their hearts disagree. They are beautiful, in all the aesthetic ways you like, but in all the other ways too. These women recommend my favourite books to me, give me my favourite songs, favourite films, tv shows and restaurants. They laugh with me about stupid things and cry over not so stupid things. The women around me have done and will do amazing things with their lives. Missing this, missing them, even for a moment breaks my heart.

They are my go to problem solvers, they are the ones I call in the night, they are my inspiration and drive, they are my friends, my mother, my sister, my aunt.

To the women.

Friday, 21 September 2012

I think I should understand that better, if I had written it down: But I can't quite follow it as you say it.


In order to remember all that happens, to keep in touch, to muse over ideas and talk about anything that crosses my mind. For the state of the world, the state of the country (whichever country it may be) and the state of my life (however messy it may be).

 Who am I?
Niki, 20, Australian.

The motivation to start now?
I'm moving to France in five days, five days.
I will be there  for seven months, working in a french high school, Lycee Vaucanson, in a city called Tours. After that? Travelling as long as I can. After that? Coming home. Something a part of me is already excited about.

So, welcome world and families and friends to my travels.